Humans possess a thinking brain, but it is relatively new in its usage. On the other hand, the emotional brain has been in practice for billions of years, even before Homoerectus appeared on Earth about 2 million years ago. The purpose of this blog is to urge you to think, feel, and observe yourself just…
Mother’s death has left a gaping hole and has made me sensitive to others whom I called my own. The sensitivity is “expectations.” The reaction towards them is “distance”, almost leading to “cut-off”. The burden I carry is “feeling cheated and alone”. The emotions are “victimhood”. The first question I ask is, “How helpful is…
The blog post describes the emotional process and attitudes of a family during a difficult time when the author’s mother’s health was deteriorating. The family members experienced sensitivities such as distress, expectations, and blame, which led to predictable changes in their interactions and relationships. The author observed how these sensitivities affected the family’s functioning and…
The death of a family member and its reverberations in the system. This blog will share the first of the three personal information about myself, my father and the family members at the time of death and the rituals that followed after that. The story starts when I receive a missed call and a text…
The theory of Dr. Murray Bowen’s family system informs my perspective on the importance of natural science and familial relationships. It has helped me understand that the connections between individuals in a family are similar to those in natural environments, such as trees, reptiles, bees, ants, and mammals. For instance, the trees communicate and keep…
Altruism, Empathy and Becoming Your Person in a Helping Relationship. I am trying to understand how a carer can be in a position worse than the recipient of the care. I know my mother is dying. I go through physiological feedback, such as something plummeting in my gut, with my heart rate slowing down, and…
What does quality mean? The dictionary meaning:“The standard of something as measured against other things of a similar kind; the degree of excellence of something”. Or ” A distinctive attribute or characteristic possessed by someone or something”. Quality of our behaviour is critical for personal growth. It becomes vital, especially when we become a service…
Today, I will put all the ideas of the blogs together. I invite the reader and myself to think about “death” and its ramifications. The ideas are as follows: My last blog discussed my mother’s severe unwellness and imminent death. The word “death” evokes a constructed emotion of “being alone”. I have taken it upon…
I got a call from my father. He says, “Mother is in depression.”I ask him what gives him this indication. He says, “She is not talking and does not open her eyes.” About the mother, she has fibrosis in her lungs, and her condition has deteriorated in the last couple of months. She has lived…
Accepting the counterproductivity of straight-line thinking or linear cause-and-effect thinking is challenging. It gives an individual a false hope of solving the problem. However, the lack of resolution of the issue is replaced with fear. Let’s take a real-life scenario, A father works three days from home. He has a young family with two children…